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Bisexuality

Introduction

Within both the straight world and the gay world and whatever world you are from there are prejudices about bisexuality. Some of the most common ones are: they can’t decide, spread AIDS, they are not subject to homophobia or heterosexism, they will cheat, they’re in a phase (which sometimes may be the case for transitioning people who are gay), they’re unique cases, men can’t be bisexual, and they are promiscuous. There is also the claim that it is a myth.

According to Kinsey, most people exist somewhere on the scale from 1-5 (see earlier Kinsey post), meaning they are a little bisexual or have had a bisexual desire or experience sometime in their life. Bisexuality or bisexual desire is not rare, but seeing it is a different story. Since monogamy is the default or the norm within society people are assumed to be either gay or straight depending on what partner one may have at the time. Bisexuality also implies sexual and/or romantic attraction to men and women. This does not mean that being bisexual equates to having the same level or intensity of attraction to both men and women. It is not always an attraction that is split down the middle or stays constant and sometimes depends on being attracted to specific individuals, not widely men and women.

Recently, bisexuality has gained a bad reputation because of its association with Katy Perry, experimentation,  Lady Gaga, and pop artists adopting it for the sake of marketing to men who have wild imaginations. There have been a lot of misconceptions about what it is and how long it has existed for. Throughout time bisexuality and the expression of it has been represented differently across time. Today actresses and actors are coming out as bisexual, which is definitely a difference from the days of free love and also the Victorian period. Sexuality across time and geographical location varies. This exploration of it while be more general for the time being.

In this entry I will talk about being bisexual and identity. This is just a short introduction the topic, which I will probably expand on extensively later to talk about topics explicitly linked to people who are bisexual.

Origination of the Word

As is not well spread knowledge, the term homosexuality developed before heterosexuality, but over time the definition and associations have began to mean different things. Along with the term homosexuality and heterosexuality, the term bisexuality was coined in the 19th century.

Being Bisexual

Even though many people have bisexual desires, not many people are bisexual or claim bisexual identity. Many people who I have encountered today who have had a history of being romantic or sexual with both men and women have called themselves lesbians, straight, and pansexual. Labeling oneself bisexual has come to mean something negative because it represents the sexual binary and limits a person. Although this criticism is true and the b is included in the lgbtq acronym that no one can ever remember and is always being altered, the representation of people who are bisexual and express desire for both and have had girlfriends, boyfriends, lovers of both genders/sexes is still incredibly rare and stigmatized. Even more so than homosexuality (I argue).

Identity is a complicated thing. Many theorists argue about this saying the basis of sexual orientation is biology, socialization, and sometimes an interaction of both. I will not profess to understand it at all, because I really don’t, but I like wondering about it because its so complicated. So being bisexual for some is about identity, some about behavior and for some its political. Sexuality in general is a subjective topic.

Many researchers, sex researchers and psychologists, have claimed that men can not possibly be bisexual (a study done in 2005), that people are naturally bisexual (Kraftt-Ebing), and that people can not strictly be categorized as straight or gay (Kinsey). Sexuality is not that simple. Sexuality depends on context and individual and comfort level and arousal and many many other things. Studies inform opinions and may say something about sexuality but should not be absorbed as absolute truth, so I am always skeptical whenever reading something about sexuality, but also interested.

Conclusion

Basically, its complicated. Bisexuality is not simple and neither is homosexuality or heterosexuality. Heterosexism and homphobia affects us all and assumptions always make an ass out of you and me. So read up and get back to me.

Links

Wikipedia is always good: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality

Richard Von Krafft-Ebing thought that bisexuality was the natural state of being: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Freiherr_von_Krafft-Ebing

Recent coming-out of an actress in True Blood: http://www.okmagazine.com/2010/06/anna-paquin-on-being-bisexual-it-wasnt-like-it-was-a-big-secret/

The Bisexual Examiner: http://www.examiner.com/x-3366-Bisexuality-Examiner~y2009m7d15-Bisexuality-101-Am-I-bisexual

Ridiculous quiz: http://www.allthetests.com/quiz19/quizpu.php?testid=1155452146&katname=Test-yourself-in-questions-of-love

NY-Times Article: http://www.nytimes.com/2005/07/05/health/05sex.html?_r=1

Religious Tolerance: http://www.religioustolerance.org/bisexuality.htm

BiBasics: http://out.ucr.edu/pdf/BiBasics.pdf

Arousal patterns of bisexual men: http://www.psychologicalscience.org/pdf/ps/bisexuality.pdf

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I Kissed a Girl

Introduction

Who doesn’t want to kiss Katy Perry? She’s hot, she may have cherry chapstick on, but! she has a boyfriend. For anyone who is queer, you know, this is dangerous ground. Someone who is experimenting wants to kiss you? Ok, cool, she’s hot, but…I mean…no hesitation right? For a few casual hook ups its fine to go around kissing straight girls, but when it comes down to it, if you are the relationship hunting type, who wants love…hell no.

In this entry, I will show the video, will display the lyrics of the song, and discuss what I think about the song as well as the response from FOX News.

Photo

(http://www.rollingstone.com/artists/katyperry)

The video

Watch it on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_W_M34VVU08

The lyrics

“This was never the way I planned
Not my intention
I got so brave, drink in hand
Lost my discretion
It’s not what, I’m used to
Just wanna try you on
I’m curious for you
Caught my attention

I kissed a girl and I liked it
The taste of her cherry chap stick
I kissed a girl just to try it
I hope my boyfriend don’t mind it
It felt so wrong
It felt so right
Don’t mean I’m in love tonight
I kissed a girl and I liked it
I liked it

No, I don’t even know your name
It doesn’t matter,
You’re my experimental game
Just human nature,
It’s not what,
Good girls do
Not how they should behave
My head gets so confused
Hard to obey

I kissed a girl and I liked it
The taste of her cherry chap stick
I kissed a girl just to try it
I hope my boyfriend don’t mind it
It felt so wrong
It felt so right
Don’t mean I’m in love tonight
I kissed a girl and I liked it
I liked it,

Us girls we are so magical
Soft skin, red lips, so kissable
Hard to resist so touchable
Too good to deny it
Ain’t no big deal, it’s innocent

I kissed a girl and I liked it
The taste of her cherry chap stick
I kissed a girl just to try it
I hope my boyfriend don’t mind it
It felt so wrong
It felt so right
Don’t mean I’m in love tonight
I kissed a girl and I liked it
I liked it”

(http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/k/katy_perry/i_kissed_a_girl.html)

Fox News Response to Video

“Never one to be shy about tackling the so called “homosexual agenda,” conservative news channel Fox News discussed the controversial song “I kissed a Girl” by Katy Perry. They title the segment “Unholy Melody” and talk about how Katy Perry formerly a Christian singer, can no longer be considered a Christian. “It shows girls you got to do something really naughty to get noticed”. I didn’t know that a girl on girl kiss was considered “unholy” anti-christian, and “naughty”. The anchor goes on to say “What kind of message of confusion does this send to kids?”” (http://www.queersunited.blogspot.com/)

Rolling Stone Interview with Katy Perry

Katy Perry vows she’s never actually kissed a girl. If she had, it would probably have been a certain ballerina. “When I was growing up, I was enamored with this one friend,” says Perry, 23, of a teenage crush. “She had the most beautiful complexion and skin, and strawberrylike lips.” Those lips would eventually inspire “I Kissed a Girl,” the infectious, bi-curious pop nugget that has earned her props from Madonna and the top slot on the Billboard singles chart for six straight weeks. On her debut, One of the Boys, Perry sings about her metrosexual-hipster exes (“Ur So Gay”), and on “Thinking of You” she channels the confessional pop rock of her idol, Alanis Morissette. Perry is currently on the Warped Tour and proudly wears the diamond promise ring from her boyfriend and tourmate, Gym Class Heroes’ Travis McCoy. Says Perry, “I suffer from lead-singer syndrome.”

Who came up with the lines “I kissed a girl, and I liked it/The taste of her cherry ChapStick”?
I did, actually. One morning, I woke up with the chorus and was like, “[Gasp] I love this! This is so taboo, though!” For a year and a half, I did nothing with it. When I was finishing up the song “Hot N Cold” with producer Dr. Luke, we were going to start a new song, and I said, “Y’know what? I should just finish ‘I Kissed a Girl.’ ” And I’m happy I did.

Fox News has denounced you for the “I Kissed a Girl” lyrics. Well done!
I grew up with Fox News at home every day, listening to the lovely Bill O’Reilly — and I say that with sarcasm. Everybody’s entitled to their own opinion, and I welcome it. But I’m more of a CNN girl, anyway.

Your parents are ministers. Have they disowned you yet?
I’m sure they opt out of singing “Ur So Gay” and “I Kissed a Girl,” but they’re singing along to every other song on the record. I tried to change them for so long, and finally, I’m like, “You know what? I ain’t gonna try to change my parents.” They’re happy and they love what they do. They’re just glad I’m not strung out, doing centerfolds and shit like that.” (http://www.rollingstone.com/news/story/22212329/qa_katy_perry/2)

Other News Reports

“Katy Perry is Tired of Girls Wanting to Kiss Her” (http://thebosh.com/archives/2008/08/katy_perry_is_tired_of_girls_wanting_to_kiss_her.php)

“Why Protest Katy Perry’s ‘I kissed a Girl’?” (http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/guest_contributors/article4517733.ece)

Outrage from the Singer’s Parents (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1046018/Shameful-disgusting-The-No1-song-sparked-outrage–singers-parents.html)

Is “I kissed a Girl homophobic?” (http://blogs.guardian.co.uk/music/2008/08/are_katy_perrys_lyrics_homopho.html)

My Response

Personally, I have been having a problem with Katy Perry’s song, “I Kissed a Girl”, just reinforcing
heterosexuality and the whole kissing girls a just an “experimental game”.

“You’re my experimental game
Just human nature”

I have a hunch this song would be popular among sorority girls who drunkenly stumble upon one of their sisters and kiss them, or who are egged on by men, boys whatever, to make out and as the girls do, the men cheer it on as just another turn on, fetish.

She also goes on to say its not what good girls do, and it makes my head so
confused (the confused part I like bc of the questioning sexuality), and the “don’t mean
I’m in love”. It’s become a hit among a bunch of straight people who “accidently” kiss
girls on a drunken night and go back to their boyfriends. I think it is popular because,
if it went the alternate direction, it would be “controversial”. Straight girls
kissing is not taboo, but this borders on the edge, because she likes it, because its
catchy, and its good/bad. She acknowledges that its bad, but I think because it still has
stigma around it. Its ok to like the kissing, but not ok to ditch your boyfriend and go
date her. Realize this isnt even questioned as cheating because she is kissing someone of
the same gender. Why is that? I still have mixed feelings about the song because I feel as if
it can go both ways in terms of good and bad. It can start conversations and it can
reinforce kissing bisexual, lesbian, queer girls for just an “experiment”. Who
knows, maybe its just a catchy song.

Conclusion

There are many opinions on this song, positive, negative, neutral. Whenever it comes on the radio, my face brightens, my sister and I sing along, and sometimes my mom even remarks that it’s “cute”. At times, I want to wish it off the radio, off of the top 20 list, but in the end, I love hearing it because “I kissed a girl” is music to my ears.

What do you think?

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